The Eastern countries consider that Marriage is like a New Birth. All your life suddenly changes after your marriage. And, exactly like a new born child, wife and husband have lot of confusions over their life. Though it is a great pleasure to work out such confusion through the new relationship, there are other things that take a back seat. One such ‘thing’ is friends outside marriage!

Today, most people have many friends, but in other words they can be called colleagues, school mates, club mates etc. And if you carefully observe, there are only few who you can call Friends. So how can you keep your relationship with them and yet not hurt your spouse. Also your spouse has friends, how are you going to handle them?

Handling Your Friends:

1. Find Your Important Pals: Think who are your most important friends now, and who are the friends you will want to have, say after 5-10 years. Such questions and answers give an insight on how to handle your friends. And also such questions will make you consider what you want to be

2. Don’t involve spouses more than you should: There will be friends who your spouse doesn’t approve of, and there will be your spouse’s friends you don’t like. But that doesn’t mean that you should stop yourself or your spouse to talk to that friend. Just keep such relationships outside marriage. Don’t bring them home. And if you have to, you need to have a strong reason.

3. Treating Single/Married Friends: Single or married, friends are friends. It is upto you to make sure your friends feel comfortable with you (and if possible with your spouse). Invite them home for dinner. But make your limits clear. Neither you nor your Unmarried friend can expect that you will still gulp the beer down or gossip about that Hot guy!

4. Draw the Line: There is always an unspoken rule about friendships of your spouse. “You keep to yours…I keep to mine”, “Be polite…” etc. But these can be broken or bent as and when you like, but not at the cost of your or your spouse’s feelings. In the end, even if there are important friends at your home, try and sleep only in your bed room. That shows your friends and your spouse, how much your care for your personal spaces.

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